Total pages in book: 114
Estimated words: 111165 (not accurate)
Estimated Reading Time in minutes: 556(@200wpm)___ 445(@250wpm)___ 371(@300wpm)
Estimated words: 111165 (not accurate)
Estimated Reading Time in minutes: 556(@200wpm)___ 445(@250wpm)___ 371(@300wpm)
She nods. “Do you think it was her? Perhaps your father. You get different feelings from each of them.”
I start stroking Frodo’s ears. “I think with my dad, it’s usually anger. Like I’ll wake up angry. My mother, I’m usually sad.”
“And what was your mood that day?”
“It was last night or this morning I had the dream,” I tell her. “And today I’ve just been…blah all day. You know? Like scooped out and sad. But it’s that terrible form of sadness. Like a sickness that clings to your bones and your heart and you can’t shake it. That kind of sad. I’m infected.”
“You know you’re going to get days like that. You know that grief doesn’t go away—it just manifests itself differently and becomes easier to manage. There will always be steps backward. The best thing you can do is call me, and you did that.”
“Yeah,” I say absently. Even heading out into the garden and working with bees didn’t do me any good. Usually, watching them go about their day, working for the greater good of the hive, being so efficient and cooperative and selfless, put things into perspective for me. How these tiny creatures are capable of so much, more than most of us are beginning to understand.
But I couldn’t find the peace they usually bring me. So even though I hadn’t been in to see Dr. Bader for a long time, I made the call, and she was able to fit me in.
“Are you going through any changes right now?” she asks. “Anything in your life out of the ordinary? Stresses that have popped up?”
I shake my head. “Not really.” I don’t want to bring up the whole dating Laz thing, not before we actually go out on a date. We’re supposed to go on our first one tonight. “I did tell Laz, my friend, about the fact that I’m more or less a virgin.”
“Oh, good,” she says. “And how did that go?”
“Pretty good. I guess. He was amazed.”
“But supportive, I’m assuming?”
“Yes. Very supportive. He’s a…he’s one of the good guys, you know?”
“I do. I always enjoy hearing you talk about him.”
I swear I’m detecting something…knowing in her tone. Then again, she is a therapist. Everything that comes out of her mouth is knowing.
“And how did it make you feel, to tell him?”
“Good. After I realized he wasn’t really judging me or making me feel like a freak, yeah. Good. It was a huge relief.”
“Does it make a difference that he’s a man? Were you more worried about telling him, than say, your friend Naomi?”
“I don’t know. Probably.”
But fuck, I know it did worry me. With Naomi and Jane, they didn’t care, they sort of made it their mission to try and find me the right guy to lose my virginity to. Yet another reason why Jane was against Laz and I ever being together. They both gave up after a point and left me to my own devices, but I never felt like I couldn’t tell them.
With Laz, though, I never wanted to bring it up. I’d rather he go on thinking I am normal like the rest of them. And, I mean, I know I’m not normal. I’m talking about dreams and my dead mother and drunken father with my therapist. I’ll probably need another refill of Ativan after this, something I was trying to wean myself off of.
And Laz knows all that stuff about me. It took a while for us both to open up to each other about our pasts, but eventually it all came out. I was involved in a horrific car crash when I was fourteen, my father driving drunk, my mother dying on impact. Laz had his father (also a drunk) walk out on him when he was fourteen. He was sent off to boarding school (this was in England), and when he came out, his mother had remarried and was living in the States. Nothing bonds people faster than a shared resentment over their fathers.
“Well,” Susan goes on, bringing my focus back to her, “I can certainly see why you might have a dream like that. This admission to Laz might be freeing but it also leaves you vulnerable. And you know when you get vulnerable, your defenses go up. But you have to look at vulnerability as a strength, Marina, not a weakness. There isn’t bleakness or despair in it, there’s hope. Take solace in that and in the fact that this might bring you and Laz closer.”
I don’t know why those last few words cause my stomach to flip, but they do. “We are pretty close already. I’m not sure how much closer we can get,” I say rather feebly.
Or maybe it’s that I’m about to find out.
After the therapy session, I’m feeling a little bit better. The sticky fragments of the dream are wearing off and I’m starting to feel more whole than hollow. It’s funny how that can sneak up on me sometimes, even without a bleak dream to kick it all off. Some days, I just carry this immeasurable sadness inside, one that makes me feel like everything soft and warm and good inside of me has been removed, scooped out. I know it’s all connected to my parents, but lately I’ve been wondering if it’s more about my father than my mother.